Absent Fathers – Mother’s Raising Teenagers

As all us who are parents realize that once your male or female child becomes teenager, little Johnny or Sally can sometimes begin to act a fool. Some of this is normal teenage behavior but some behavior acted out in this day and age is clearly out of bounds. This is normally the time when teenage males need their father’s guidance and discipline more than ever. But I have noticed that (most) mother’s end up suffering thru what can be an overwhelming part of child rearing. And most women in general will stick by their child’s side no matter what. Many father’s however, will drop these young men like a bad habit rationalizing that he’ll eventually “get in line”.

Although women have done wonderful jobs at raising children, male children desperately need the male role model in the family so they can learn how to be men. Women certainly don’t have the knowledge or understanding to teach boys to be men. A woman can tell him what she thinks it is to be a man, however, it is not something a mother can model for her son.

For years I’ve wondered why fathers don’t have that same inherent attachment, obligation and genuine love for their own offspring. Is it because mother’s assume all responsibility and let men completely off the hook? Is it because some males can’t separate the feelings they have for their children from the one’s that have from their “Baby’s Mamma?” Or is that some fathers are simply to self-absorbed and incapable of truly loving another individual that cannot give them something in return?

Preventing High School Drop Outs

As I’m typing this post, I’m thinking about my son graduating high school soon. – with all my excitement you’d think he was graduating from Harvard. You see, he should have graduated in May but I’m thankful he’s graduating at all. For the past 4 years I have pushed, pulled and drug him thru High School….Damn I’m tired. He is a handful, but a mothers love will endure and make us do things that others often scoff at. Several people have told me to let him fail, he’ll have to figure it out for himself. I do agree with this sentiment however I also realize that without at least a High School Diploma he had absolutely no chance and would probably never see the inside of a school again. At least since he’s graduated high school perhaps he can begin to realize the benefits of education.

I’m definitely encouraging him to go to college, but he’ll have to drag himself thru that. Moma’s tired.